I feel the word ‘lesbian’ has been taken from queer women and transformed into something that is no longer queer or anything to do with female/female same sex desire. Rather, the word ‘lesbian’ in mainstream culture, particularly pornography, suggests a highly sexualised fetish for a heterosexual audience (predominantly male) with little or no relation to actual female/female desire.
In my eyes, mainstream terms such as ‘lesbian’ ‘lesbianism’ or ‘lesbian pornography’ have little to do with actual real queer female representations of sex or lifestyle. A man watching two lesbians on porn hub is not experiencing queer culture, a man engaging in a threesome with two women is not engaging in a queer act.
History has been written predominantly by men, so of course there is little mention of homosexual activity between women (unless of course it entertains the male sexually). Lesbianism has therefore historically either been considered an illness, non-existent or a sexual act for a male to enjoy (as history would tell us females have no sexual desire, they are purely there to please the male)
The term ‘lesbian’ has been stolen from queer women. It no longer exclusively translates as the desire between two females, rather the term ‘lesbian’ has become a heterosexual fetish. Two women and one man is NOT homosexual… its completely heterosexual. Actual gay women like myself could not think of anything more horrific than engaging in a sexual act with a female lover and a male.
I wish to dissociate myself from the label ‘lesbian’ and rather be referred to only as queer, gay or sapphic. My current projects have only slightly touched on the problem with the term ‘lesbianism’, but I have big plans for the future regarding this concept…